When Dating Turns Dangerous
On Tuesday, October 28th at 7pm at Sharon High School, H.U.G.S. Sharon (Help Us Get Safe) and S.A.D.D. (Students Against Destructive Decision) will cosponsor an evening of “Promoting Healthy Relationships Among Teens”.
The guest speaker will be Dr. Malcom Astley of Wayland. He is the father of Lauren Dunne Astley who died July 3, 2011 at the hands of her former boyfriend, who was still enraged that she had broken up with him in the spring.
Lauren was 18. She had just graduated from Wayland High School and was preparing to go to Elon University in North Carolina.
Dr. Astley , a retired educator and principal, and his former wife, Mary Dunne, a pre-school teacher, have taken up the cause of the issue of dating violence. They have focused their efforts on awareness and education.
In honor of Lauren, they have established the Lauren Dunne Astley Memorial Fund to promote healthy teen relationships, as well as promote the arts and community service.
In addition to Dr. Astley, the Clothesline Project, which bears witness to the survivors as well as the victims of domestic violence, and the Silent Witness Exhibit, which are red wooden silhouettes representing the Massachusetts victims of domestic violence, will be displayed.
Refreshments will be served Admission is free
Visit http://www.hugs-sharon.org for more information on teen dating abuse
The Clothesline Project
The Clothesline Project (CLP) was a program started on Cape Cod in 1990 to address the issue of violence against women. It began as a way for women affected by violence to express their emotions on a shirt which was then hung on a clothesline to be viewed by others. With the support of many, it has since spread world-wide. The Clothesline Project helps with the healing process for people who have lost loved ones, and educates and raises society’s awareness of the extent of intimate partner violence.
Here are some excerpts from some shirts:
I learned the ABC’S in school
Then I learned them as an abused woman
Then I learned them as a survivor
Alive, Beautiful and in Control of my own life
I stand in silence when unkind words are said
I stand in silence for peace
I stand in silence to hide
I stand in silence so no one knows my fears
I stand in silence so people can think how brave, how wise she is
I’ve fooled them all –or have I?
I stand in silence because I don’t know what to say or do
I stand in silence because I am not brave or wise
I stand in silence to disappear so no one can see who I really am
But I will not stand in silence anymore!
The Silent Witness Exhibit
Remember my story
Remember my name
They stand in silence
They can’t speak a word
But yet, their voices need to be heard
Wooden silhouettes of what they used to be
All of their stories are cold realities.
The Silent Witness Exhibit is a nationwide traveling exhibit of free-standing, life-size red wooden silhouettes. Each witness represents a woman, child or man who was murdered in Massachusetts due to acts of intimate partner violence in this year. All witnesses have the name and the story of the person on its breast shield. Because these individuals no longer have a voice, the silhouettes are called Silent Witnesses.
The Silent Witnesses are a visual and compelling way to touch people on a personal level. One in four women will be affected by DV in their lifetime. By raising awareness of this issue the exhibit is a pro-active method to attempt to alert people to the fact that domestic violence does not discriminate. It is an issue that affects everyone- even those in upscale communities.
On Tuesday, February 11th, Deana’s Educational Theater performed the play,” The Yellow Dress” for the senior class at the High School. It was funded by the Sharon Credit Union and sponsored by H.U.G.S. Sharon. It is a one woman play about dating violence. The play helps students recognize the different types of dating violence, how to identify the early warning signs, and where to seek help if they or a friend are involved in a violent relationship.To watch small scenes from the play please go to http://www.deanaseducationaltheater.org. and click on” programs and then, The Yellow Dress.”
Pamella D’Arcy, a nurse at Harvard Pilgrim Healthcare wrote a mini grant to help support H.U.G.S.Sharon. Sheis pictured here with Julie Rubinstein, President of H.U.G.S.Sharon, presenting a check to us. Thank you Pamella!
In June, we planted a Garden of Courage at the Sharon Police Dept. to inspire and remind people driving by that we can provide assistance for people in a domestic abuse situation.
H.U.G.S.Sharon is a small nonprofit organization created to help make our community safer. Over the past ten years, some of our accomplishments include the following: we have sponsored plays in the schools that teach about healthy relationships and the consequences of sexting and cyberbullying ,have provided programming in the community on topics such as intimate partner violence, and bullying,have paid for lock changes, and hotel stays for members of the community in need, have donated a washer and dryer to the Norfolk Advocate for Children, and recently created and planted a Garden of Courage at the police department. H.U.G.S. Sharon which has worked with several JDI member programs including New Hope, DOVE, Family & Community Resources and Health Imperatives.